Marriage Ultimatums and Why We DON'T Advise Them.

Our live caller wants to know if she should give her husband an ultimatum to go to counseling, start working on himself, or move out. She explains that he says things like, "I need to "figure things out for myself." - If you're in a similar situation, get the FREE eBook: 7 Ways to Keep Saving Your Marriage, even if your spouse is done: https://marriagehelper.com/7-ways-to-keep-saving-your-marriage-optin/ Dr. Joe Beam explains if she's REALLY at the point where something needs to happen or the marriage will end, then it would be appropriate to set a CORE. Here at Marriage Helper, CORES stand for "continuing our relationship essential." Setting up a CORE requires something specific, i.e. "You must do this for the relationship to continue." And, if you decide to set a CORE, you must be prepared to bring about the consequence you set. So we encourage you: think this all through very carefully! Additionally, Kimberly Holmes advises this caller to refine this question: Why are you asking your spouse to do what you're wanting to do? For example, this caller needs to pinpoint the reason behind why she wants to do counseling. -What's the core issue? -What are you trying to accomplish? Before you give any ultimatum, you need to find a counselor who's goal is to help you fight for the marriage. For further reading, check out these articles: - https://marriagehelper.com/counseling-vs-coaching/ - https://marriagehelper.com/how-to-find-marriage-counselor-cwc/ - https://marriagehelper.com/the-perils-of-counseling/ •••••••••••••••••••••••• Thank you for watching! Be sure to like, subscribe, share and also turn on the notifications by clicking the bell! - Workshops: https://marriagehelper.com/workshops/ - Coaching: https://marriagehelper.com/coaching/ - Online Courses: https://marriagehelper.com/programs/ Call: 1 (866) 903 - 0990 Email: info@marriagehelper.com Visit: https://www.marriagehelper.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MarriageHelper/ iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marriage-helper-helping-your-marriage/id978519992 Follow Kimberly on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes Learn More About PIES University: PIESUniversity.com

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